FWB.

I had an interesting conversation with a good friend yesterday, who had just got out of a messy Friends with Benefits (FWB) relationship recently. The girl (as most girls do) started to get clingy, and beginning to convince herself that she was in a actual relationship with my friend (psycho!), even though he never ever promised her anything. Worst thing was, she even accused my friend of wasting her time (double psycho!!); when it was their mutual agreement in the first place, that they both were in it, purely, to get physical.

I was kinda able to guess why the girl would act such a way and everything made sense when he showed me how she looked like: she wasn't that attractive to look at.

See, being female, you are constantly being judged based on your appearance (although I do believe I think differently from most generic, mainstream female race), when you don't have the looks, you don't get guys going crazy over you. (I know that's harsh. It even took me a long time to come to acceptance with this fact. That's the reality, so let's just face it shall we!?) When you don't have guys going all crazy over you, you don't get dates. When you don't get dates, you are forever alone. When you are forever alone, you tend to just settle for what you have in the present, which in my friend's case, hoping that he would one day see her in a romantic way.

I even asked: If she was, well, pretty, would things change?

His answer was: I wouldn't do a fb on her. I would have just try dating her straight! It would be a waste 'keeping her in the dark'.

I asked: But how could you even do it with her when she's not, sorry to say this, good looking or even fit?

He said: Ahhh... Well babe, it was purely physical babe. You don't really need to see the looks bit to be honest. Pretty ones are hard to come by because they are 'hot' in the market, leaving the rejected ones.

He continued: Babe, since you're not into a committed one, will you consider having a fb relationship with me?

I answered: LOL! Babe I've changed. I don't wanna be kept in the dark. I want to be loved for who I am, not just a 'tool' for you to have your fix. I am looking for a committed relationship, or at least I'll try.

He said: Then why not with me?

I said: No! Stop kidding yourself. You don't do committed relationships babe! You won't even know how to handle me!

To all you out there who are currently in the FWB relationship, I suggest you to rethink. Seriously. Rethink. If you don't see yourself taking your current status to the next level because you are embarrassed to be seen with them, let alone introduce them to your circle of friends and family as your girlfriend/boyfriend; or seeing yourself spending your future with them (i.e., marriage), stop kidding yourselves and run. Run before the other party starts to get emotionally attached to you. Run before you fall into the 'comfort zone' by convincing yourself that everything is ok, for now. Run before the other party starts to accuse you of wasting their time when you have eventually found 'the one'. Run before the other party gets all psycho over you and starts begging, crying and suicidal for you to not leave them. Seriously. This is a game meant only for the strong minded ones. If you think you are not cut out for this, I suggest you to just stick with the traditional kind; and if you are not ready to commit, just go adopt a pet or pick up a new sport or just chill. People, seriously. Rethink. Seriously.

Now I see!

You know, many have told me how toned my body looks; but whenever I see myself in the mirror, I still see my plump, untoned self.

A friend has decided to photograph me, and also to prove his (and everyone else's point); and said that I should feel proud of what I have achieved for myself.

I had loads of fun during this shoot, and best of all, he made me look so awesome! And he also swore besides using filter, he didn't do anything else to 'correct' my body.

Okay!

New Year's Resolutions.

1) Learn to let go.

2) Learn to trust.

3) Learn to love.

4) Learn to be loved.

5) Learn to commit.

6) Complete a half-marathon.

7) Conquer Mount K.

8) Complete a full-marathon.

9) Stay awesome.

10) I'm sexy (and I know it!)

Handmade Christmas.

For this coming Christmas, I did something different for our little gift exchange tradition. All my gifts were handmade.
Now this is what I call thoughtful giving!

Project Alteration.

I thrifted this blouse for only RM1!!!
When I saw it at the thrift store, I fell in love with the print. Since I have not done altering before, this was my first attempt at it. One of the sleeves turned out a bit wonky, but I think I can live with it.

Brand new wallet.

I took 3 weeks time-out off work to spend some quiet me time. I wanted to start sewing again. Since my old wallet is all worn-out, I sew myself a brand new one using one of my favorite fabric I got from Hong Kong; and this time I added more card slots to hold my growing collection of um well... cards.

The Joys Of Thrifting III.

Thrifted this vintage piece at RM3!
Look at her. She's such a beauty isn't she?

The human hanger.

Today, I took out this winter coat I purchased from Hong Kong 2 years ago and tried it on. To my complete and utter disbelief, it is now too big on me.

Anyways, this coat is a size 'M'. Anybody who wants to 'adopt' this beauty, just let me know.

More polka.

Found another beauty at the thrift store.

Do the polka.

Oh look what I found at the thrift store today!